Comments on Tess and Ivette's Posts

I don't know if it's kosher to comment on other's posts, but I was thinking about Tess's comments on intersectionality as relating to what we talked about in the Mujeres Sin Fronteras meeting about moving outside of our comfort zone and widening our circle of comfort. Tess mentioned that working within two cultures can feel like going down a river with one foot in each of two canoes. But can the the "problem" be reframed? In one way, when you step into a new culture and begin to develop as a person in that culture you are blowing open your circle of comfort and becoming a more versatile, expansive person. The metaphor that comes into my head is the idea of a house. When I was younger and only knew how to operate in one culture (or even 1 subculture, if we think of, say, High School), it was like I was living in a house, but I never left my bedroom. Gradually, as I was exposed to different cultures and began to see how I changed as a person when I was immersed in that culture, and accepted that the way I acted in that culture, though different, was "me" too, my 'self' got a whole new room! Welcome to the den, sit down and stay a while! I think it's easier for me to think about it in this way, though, because these cultures were not necessarily in conflict with one another, so I never felt like I was betraying my loyalty to any group by immersing myself in another group and taking on their mores, styles, attitudes, etc. 

10/3/14 Mujeres Sin Fronteras Workshop Ivette

Last Friday, we attended the Mujeres Sin Fronteras group with Sarah, Klarissa, and Xochitl.  The theme was about personal care and how we can find balance in our lives.   In addition to covering the 4 toltec agreements, they added a fifth which was spaces for "listening with power" and the transformation that has.  Later the conversation was about comfort zone and moving beyond the spaces that we become comfortable in.  I found it interesting and needed to speak up after we were talking about an imaginary person and described strengths and attributes and then in the next sentence began being intolerant of this imaginary person who, despite 17 years in the US had not learned English.  For me this demonstrated how we are not separate of the mainstream narratives we hear of others and even when we are doing great work, we need to be cautious of not marginalizing people and making assumptions of their priorities, values, and lived experiences.  It was a vivid reality that our work will never be done but we need to start somewhere and starting where we are, is the best we can each do.   

10/3/14 Casa Latina Workshop Xochitl

Last Friday (10/3) I went to Casa Latina along with Ivette, Klarissa, and Sarah. We attended the Mujeres sin Fronteras workshop. This was my first time going to Casa Latina. We started off with introductions, then had several activities throughout the workshop. One activity that stood out to me is the exercise in escuchando con poder - listening with power. This involved getting into pairs and talking about yourself with no interruptions for three minutes and then listening to the other person do the same. I found this a little challenging because I found I ran out of things to say, maybe because I did not know the woman I was talking to. But this was a great exercise for how to be a good, active listener in conversation. Another activity that I enjoyed was when we were asked to draw or describe a goal for the immediate future or distant future that we have for ourselves. It was nice hearing everyone share what theirs was. Many women had the goal of finishing up school or getting their driver's license/permit.